shellie ross tweets her sons death 30 mins after he drowns

I am just stunned. First of all, I don’t follow a lot of the stereotypical “mom blogs” who generally have a big network of followers, supporters, etc…  I will admit they really support one another, or seem to.  Today, I was looking at my twitter which is not a daily thing I might add and mostly contains news like fox, cnn, and local stations, when I noticed a tweet from another mommy blogger… can’t remember who defending her blogging friend.

So Shellie Ross, today out of FL, tweets that her  two year old son had just drowned in the family pool.  Thirty minutes after the fact…  to the general public.  I cannot fathom losing my son and then having the ability to even breathe much less tweet 30 minutes later.  It just seems so callous and wrong.  How about a txt to a close friend who could tweet it for you?  It’s like back in time when you go into mourning and wear black… it’s just a common sense thing… you just don’t.  do.  that.

Then Madison McGraw responds online and contacts the media.  My first impression is fame.  You HAVE to want the hits on your blog, knowing your news was posted on the Huffington Post, ABC news, and even the New York Times blog.  She goes overboard for sure.  The mommy bloggers respond on Twitter with name calling:  missing tooth, or gapped tooth, fake breasts, and even goes so far as to post her real name and address.  This all saddens me as these women, although thinking they are doing this to defend their friend, are in fact only making this story continue on and on.

Donations pour in to help the mother…  I don’t know.  Maybe if I’m in that position one day (God forbid) I will reach out to the world, but I can guarantee it won’t be on twitter.  I never post anything so sensitive, raw, polarizing, or just plain strange.  Or I would have someone else post it.  Or I will reach out to my church… either way, I would never subject myself to posting something like this publically on twitter where crazies CAN pick it up and other crazies can get involved in an online bully fight… even tracking down blog posts about it.

From ABC News:

“Fog is rolling in thick scared the birds back in the coop,” Ross tweeted at 5:22 p.m. on Monday.

At 5:23 p.m., her son called 911 to report that his brother, 2-year-old Bryson, was floating unconscious in the pool. Records show that the Brevard County Fire-Rescue paramedics arrived at Ross’ Mirrett Island, Fla., home at 5:38 p.m.

And 34 minutes later, at 6:12 p.m., Ross tweeted again. “Please pray like never before, my 2 yr old fell in the pool.”

Nearly five hours later, after her son had been pronounced dead, Ross tweeted again.

“Remembering my million dollar baby,” she wrote. Ross included a photo of Bryson in the post, time-stamped at 11:08 p.m. A few minutes later, she posted another photo of her son.

Between the hours of 8:37 a.m. and 5:22 p.m (her first and last before son was found drowned in pool) she tweeted 74 times.

Seriously?  It just doesn’t make sense to me.  I would be distraught, perhaps catatonic.  I wouldn’t be tweeting, but perhaps the addiction is worse than we thought.  Perhaps tweeting is like any other addiction.  Too much of a possible thing.  Who cares that the fog was rolling in?  I bet 70% of the tweets were just words.  Words that maybe should stay inside our brains.  Why would you want to document every moment of your life via twitter?  I can see using it to be witty, but never to draw in the world because of tragedy showcasing neglect.

No parent is perfect.  I’ve taken my eyes off my son for more than a minute.  It doesn’t take long, but if you own a damn pool peope, 100% vigilence is mandatory.  You don’t play with the roosters and tweet on your phone and be the rockstar in your own blogosphere.  You live life where you ARE.  Not that you can’t have friends on the internet, but don’t lose sight of your priorities.  There is no difference with this than a mother doing ANYthing than doing what we are all as mothers are charged to do.  Protect your children at all costs.

“People who are attacking me are just trying to drive attention to their blogs,” the tweeting mother stated.

Really?  I don’t really need attention.  I have a full-time job and don’t depend or predict this blog would ever be anything more than it is.  The only one trying to gain attention here is the mother in my opinion.  I hope other mothers don’t gain an idea from this… even though it’s obvious this mother loved her son, her priorities were skewed.  I don’t post my real life name here or a pen name.  I just post my own thoughts for myself really.  One of those things as I’ve said in the past to read when I’m old.

Apparently she had told her older son to turn off the water to the pool or something and he didn’t shut the gate all the way.  How about some safety features to ensure the gate would close?  I would never trust another child regardless of age could understand the gravity of a 2 year old drowning and how fast it would be.  BUT, I would never turn my back for a second if I lived in a home with a pool.  If you are going to own a pool folks, you had better do everything in your power.

So yes, some may have attacked and she claims threatening her for being so callous, etc…  but long after this story has died (quickly I hope) Ms. Ross will forever live with the thoughts of not keeping her eyes on her toddler.  I know if an accident happened to my son, I wouldn’t want to live with what she will live with for the rest of her life.  It seems more genuine when someone else goes to bat FOR you to arrange for donations, etc…  Tweeting your own tragedy as it unfolds and the child is barely at the morgue is just too fast for my own taste.  This is my opinion only.  My feelings.

I don’t think she should be vilified for tweeting. She should be vilified for leaving her 2 year-old out of sight and hearing range long enough for him to drown in their own pool.

octomom

I am so disgusted with Nadya Suleman.  When I first heard of her, I thought “Miracle Mom.”  Wow.  Assumed she had a husband.  I assumed she had a job.  I assumed she struggled with infertility.

I assumed too much.

Instead, she is a jobless, single, suing, greedy, and possibly ignorant woman.  She has become ridiculed rather than revered.  She already had six kids.  She doesn’t own a home, but she can get her lips done to resemble Angelina Jole.  She is known as a single mother with 14 children who was living on a combination of food stamps, student loans and disability claims while her elderly mother, who was caring for Suleman’s six older children, couldn’t make her mortgage payments.

Her own father questions her mental stability.

The story gets even hairier if possible.  Nadya’s ex-boyfriend wants a paternity test to determine if he is the father of all the children.  He claims he donated sperm to Nadya Suleman during their three-year relationship more than  a decade ago.  He claims that she told him she had ovarian cancer and had to be inseminated to have children fast.  He is now married and has two children of his own. But he has pledged to help her care for the children, even if they turn out not to be his. OK.

Then the obvious obsession with plastic surgery and Angelina Jole.

A prime example of overindulgence and overinflated sense of self entitlement.

edited to add:  She’s going to be on Dr. Phil tomorrow.  ARGH.

When it’s your time to check-out

My grandfather passed away years and years ago, but one thing I remember about him is his uncanny saying of, “When it’s your time, it’s your time.”  In other words, if someone died he said it was their time – regardless.

 It was definitely this woman’s time, wouldn’t you say?

Good news for a friend…

Her surgery was moved up to this month!  I’m so happy about it!!!

Yay Janna!

Today on CNN… we lose our privacy.

Today, while eating my soup from Bread & Company, I realized that we are entering a new age of loss of privacy in public.  A small percentage of us are celebrities, but a greater percent of us taking shortcuts, throwing out cigarette butts, parking in handicapped parking illegally, or just being plain rude.  I was shocked to find Rude People, a website where people post information about other people and things that don’t like their behavior.  A “hall of shame” to expose people parking illegally in disability or mobility parking spaces is called CaughtYa.  And another Litterbutt.  Keep in mind on the CaughtYa website that actual license tags are being photographed and published.

 What’s next?

you can burn a homeless man

I’m pooped today. Literally. I sit here day after day in front of this screen and try to weigh out my life. What am I doing? Where am I going? What is going to happen? Why is life passing by so quickly? Is my house going to sell? Am I going to get out of debt? Blah, blah, blah. I read an article in the paper today about a homeless man here in Nashville who was sleeping on the cold sidewalk last winter (a year ago), and a 30 year old man who claims to have been intoxicated decided to throw a lighted match on him. He was on fire from the waist down. He spent about 6 months in the hospital, and he’s mentally ill (schizophrenia). The man guilty of such a heinous act? Found guilty and sentenced to PROBATION. Yes, that’s right. PROBATION. I cannot fathom such a thing. If the man laying on the sidewalk had been the mayor of a prominent city? Or what about the child of the richest people in the city? I’m floored. Anyway. Society today is governed and defined by riches and wealth. All around me I see it… and it leaches its way toward me most of the time. Anyway. That’s all for now.